“…Being “gracious” in our speech, not only speaks well of ourselves, but our parents, as well…”

Image result for caricature of a person of high guyDo you see that fellow over there….now, he’s a QUALITY guy? I can only pray that someone, somewhere, sometime…. Might utter those words about me. What a compliment? The FACT is; we ought to be doing that anyway. We should do it every time we have the opportunity. We all know people like that deserve that type of compliment. In fact; I say ”now he’s a quality guy,” …all the time. I love saying it.

Let me be CLEAR… I don’t just say it…. to say it. I say it because I mean it.  It makes me “feel good,” about myself.  I like the feeling when I say it… We don’t speak well of others as often as we should.  And, now is a good time to change our habits.

James 1:9 tells us …“Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.” And, in Colossians 4:6 says: “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”

Being “gracious” in our speech, not only speaks well of ourselves, but our parents, as well. I admit… sometimes I don’t speak “so kindly” of certain people. Not that I’m trying to do harm, but as an example: “Did you notice how that guy over there has been acting a bit strange…. I wonder what’s WRONG with him.” It sounds simple, and innocent, enough…. But it’s the first stage of JUDGING and GOSSIP; and therefore…it’s WRONG.

I rarely miss a chance to “conversate,” and have to be on my guard…. To say the “right-thing.” Let us not… throw out “casual remarks,”…. Good or bad, unless we are SINCERE and intend to be “gracious.” Now… I’m not preaching… I’m wanting to TEACH by example. I’m trying to “do better,” myself, so that other’s will want to emulate me. I want to set a good example. I want my CHILDREN (all adults) to be PROUD of their Father. I want them to REMEMBER me, as having said: “Now that’s a QUALITY guy.” I don’t want to project a “double-standard.”

It’s hard… being a NICE guy. For me, it doesn’t come too NATURAL. I mean… I’m nice enough…. See what I mean? Being “nice enough,” is NOT Good ENOUGH! That’s like “barely getting by.” Or, getting a “C” on a test. Who wants AVERAGE? We must, all, strive to be BETTER, to EXCELL, to work in a QUALITY manner. We are our own PRODUCT… so, why not produce a “quality product?”

We should project QUALITY, but do it with humility, as well. Jesus was a “quality guy,” but he was also, a Man of Humility, complete SINCERETY; and RIGHTEOUSNESS. We must strive to be… more Christ-like. I’m of the opinion that when we CONDUCT ourselves more “Christ-like,” then people will want to do “more business” with us, or our company. People want to “follow” that type of LEADERSHIP. If we project QUALITY, then we will ATTRACT quality. Quality finds quality…

Here are a few of “my secrets” in how to project a sense of QUALITY: Dress appropriately; have good hygiene; wear clean/polished shoes; don’t smoke; don’t drink; and don’t play around with the opposite sex; don’t gamble; don’t cuss; don’t yell (to make your point); don’t stay angry; be forgiving; follow the Golden Rule; be positive; stay CALM, cool and collected; don’t gossip; always be respectful and polite; have “good manners,” eat properly; watch you weight; go to Church; be SINCERE in your belief of God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit; don’t harbor grudges; be ON-TIME; pay your fair share; always leave a good tip; and SMILE (this is hard for me); laugh often; be compassionate; listen intently and intentionally; let others speak first; keep your mouth SHUT; work HARD; and here’s a NEW one; don’t shake hands with the Ladies…unless they extend their hands first; don’t speak PRIVATELY with women; and lastly… don’t eat alone with women. The last few have to do with AVOIDING temptation, and compromise. Then… one day… someone might say: “Now there’s a QUALITY guy.” ….Blessings…cjlb…3/26/15. 

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About Charles Brooks

who is originally from Miami, Fla., moved to SC, holds two degrees from the University of SC. His business background is primarily in Real Estate Development (Motels, Hotel, Office Buildings, Restaurants, Residential) and Business Consulting. He currently is Managing Director of Brooks, Baker, Lehman & Kohlhepp - Investors in Real Estate and Mining, and has other business interests under the umbrella of Brooks Properties. FULL-TIME-MINISTRY: Fully engaged in spreading the Gospel of Our Lord Jesus Christ, with an emphasis on the Business Community.


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