I CALL’S IT LIKES I SEE’S IT. We all, probably… are guilty of that… more often then we’d care to admit. When we “call it like we see it,” we are likely going to… hurt someone’s feelings… compromising, maybe… their self-worth. Is that what we want…probably not? Most of us prefer a “smooth-sailing” enviroment.
When we “call-it-like-we-see-it”… we really don’t leave much room for miss-interpretation….no room for mistakes. But, is that what we want? Is that the impression we want to leave with?
I’m not talking about baseball, or some other precise sport. I’m talking about day-to-day life events. If someone has bad breath, is it really necessary that you blurt it out in the Sales Meeting? Or, could you, mention it casually later on; or even offer them a CERT. If a co-worker has “screwed up a project”… do you call him down in front of all his peers, or do you collectively help him get it back on track? The answer all of these would be, hopefully… we would “go their rescue,” and help them save-their-day.
I am probably one of those who calls it… “Like it is,” as I’ve never been one to leave room for miss-understanding. I don’t want anyone to have to read between the lines. But, that said, I would NEVER, and have NEVER… called someone down in front of others. But…. I’ve had it done to me, and I’ve seen it done to others, many times over the years.
I’ve told this story before… as a 30-year old… Corporate Comptroller, of a state-wide distributor, I was “cussed” at… over some minor error. I had heard this fellow, the owner/president, do the same thing to “everybody” else… and I pre-determined… that he wouldn’t do it to me. My Mother taught me not to let people take advantage of me.
So, when this guy went into his tirade, I just bit my lip and didn’t even respond, nor did he expect me to. But the next morning… when he came in, I politely called him away from the general office area, where we could speak PRIVATELY. I told him… “I didn’t talk like that… nor, would I permit anyone to talk to me as he did. Further, what he did to the others… was not appropriate, and was surely not acceptable working conditions. He was well known for his “wicked tongue.” I concluded my conversation thusly: 1. I wanted his immediate apology, and 2. If he ever did it again… I was quitting on the spot….and, if this didn’t suit him…then I resigning… then and there. He immediately apologized, and I believed him to be sincere. I stayed about 3-4 more months, and left for a bigger and better opportunity. We remained friends for some 35 years… until his passing.
I might add, though… the situation I went into was… much the worse. The President of that company left “verbal blood” in every hall way. That said… in the four years of my employment… he NEVER raised his voice to ME… nor treat me disrespectful. So, as you can see….calling it like it is… has a time and a place.
The great King of Wisdom…Solomon, tells us in …. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 – There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.