“… I didn’t mix well, and was not much of an tail-kisser…”

Sometimes I feel ISOLATED….wonder why?  How about you; do you like working alone, isolated, a self-starter, self-motivator?  Who are “we” kidding?  I’ve been a loner all of my life; and considering everything…it hasn’t turned out all that bad.  Looking back, I wish that it had been different.  You see….I had to work twice as hard as my peers.  I married at 19, started college at 20, and finished at age 33.  Not the best way to go from A to Z.  I always worked through lunch, eating a package of nabs, and a soft drink, and always stayed later than everyone else.  I feared that if someone knew how to do my job – then – they might not need me; I even feared taking vacation time.  I spent a lot of time working alone, and developed the habit, and kept it through the years, even until this day.  Though I was weak in education, I was recognized as a hard-worker, dependable, and honest.  I moved through the corporate system pretty rapidly, reaching Corporate Controller before graduating from college.  The compromises and family sacrifices were many; and my wife was a good coach and father to my children.  While it ended well; in the normal way of measuring success; but it left a nagging question.  Had I learned to work better with others; the end result may have been more easily attainable?  I had to dig deep into my inner-self to BETTER the others who came by it easier.  I remember “turning down” a promotion to Division Controller at age 30; as I didn’t feel confident, and was not willing to risk failure ….I wasn’t ready.  I was 50 years old before I even knew what the term….NETWORKING meant.  I didn’t mix well, and was not much of an tail-kisser.  My point here; is that we, as Leader’s, should insure that our “up-and-coming” (up-starts) are better equipped than we were.  We should make it our business to mentor them, guide them, encourage them, to mix and blend with them….not to isolate them….to be a LEADER.  1 Corinthians 12:12 For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. Proverbs 18:1 – Whoever ISOLATES himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. …Blessings…cjlb…1/20/14

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About Charles Brooks

who is originally from Miami, Fla., moved to SC, holds two degrees from the University of SC. His business background is primarily in Real Estate Development (Motels, Hotel, Office Buildings, Restaurants, Residential) and Business Consulting. He currently is Managing Director of Brooks, Baker, Lehman & Kohlhepp - Investors in Real Estate and Mining, and has other business interests under the umbrella of Brooks Properties. FULL-TIME-MINISTRY: Fully engaged in spreading the Gospel of Our Lord Jesus Christ, with an emphasis on the Business Community.


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