RELATIONSHIPS: Family, friends, socially, church, business, and spiritual. What’s it all about… who needs it? …. And what difference does it really make… in the end? It would seem to even the rank amateur, that “relationships” are at the very top of “what’s important” in life. All too often, though, “we think” that we can do it all by ourselves.
Believe me… I know what I’m talking about… because… that’s been the story of my life. I’ve always had a… Leave me alone…. Get out of my way… I’ll do it myself… I know best… I’ll PROVE them all WRONG…. Type of ATTITUDE.
Throughout my life… not many thought that I would amount to much… and maybe, in some respects… I haven’t. It seems that I’ve spent far too much energy proving they were wrong and I was right, then necessary. But, then, maybe it was that “precise energy” that it took to get from A to Z. Without that “fire lit under me,” maybe I would have failed… just as “they” thought.
Most of my accomplishments have been done through little to no… relationships. I NEVER saw anyone standing in line to “make the way easier.” Or so…. I thought.
So… allow me, please, to REFLECT on RELATIONSHIPS. First, I’d ENCOURAGE you, to NEVER…. REPEAT…NEVER… “Go-it-alone.” Aside from the fact that it’s lonesome… in the long run… it’s not necessary. There are people who “affect your life,” all along the way of the “trials, mistakes, tribulations, and the successes… as well. Maybe they didn’t “announce” their presence to you; maybe they didn’t seem obvious; and maybe they were “intentionally ignored.” But they were there.
Still, I NEVER had anyone every “jump in the FIRE with me,” but there were those, few, who CHEERED me along the way…. That I never gave much credit to. I was always too busy… proving I was capable of doing it by myself. But… relationships…like “net-working” (something else that I never cared for), are IMPORTANT pieces of the puzzle of life. Relationships are the “glue” that holds everything together. I could have used a “bit more” of that glue as I walked the road….and I regret that I didn’t “reach-out,” more so, to some of those RELATIONSHIPS.
The FACT is: most people who are “willing to help,” aren’t going to “hit you over the head” with all kinds of help. No… they might make a “suggestion, or two,” and when they see it go on “deaf ears,” then, they back off…. And rightly so. They were “shaking the dust” off their sandals… as told to us in: Matthew 10:13-14 – “If the house is worthy, give it your blessing of peace. But if it is not worthy, take back your blessing of peace. “Whoever does not receive you, nor heed your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake the dust off your feet.”
I’m “just saying”…. My road could have been traveled “a lot easier,” had I LISTENED to some of the “advice,” that I got along the way, but IGNORED… because I was the “smart one.” And the ironic thing is this…. Here I am, today, the one who is “offering advice.”
Mohammed Ali once said: “A man who thinks the same at 50 as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years.” And to quote my good friend, Dale Boozer: “One does not meet people, (or build RELATIONSHIPS), by sitting on the couch and watching them talk in front of a TV camera. To make footprints in the sands of time, you have to get up and walk among others… not just passively view someone else’s ideas.”
So why should I expect anyone to take my advice? Well… for one reason… I’m PERSISTANT. I don’t give up easily. And, I’m not going away… anytime soon. WISDOM, as in “relationships,” are GIFTS from Heaven, and I’ve got plenty to go around.
For we are reminded in: James 3:16-18 – For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there is disorder and every evil thing. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy. And the seed whose fruit is righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
… Blessings…cjlb… 7/16/15.