DISAGREE with RESPECT: As a seasoned Owner/Manager/Leader….I have always solicited my employees to “respectfully disagree” with me. Meaning that…..”I understand what you’re suggesting, but have you considered this as an option?” Or…..”I can do it that way, but I think I can save “‘$” if we do it this way….etc.”
My “personal-rule,” is ….you can disagree with “my way,” up to three times; and I’ll listen to your perspective each and every time…and with respect (when the Boss is respectful…it makes it easier for the employee to be respectful). BUT, when I still direct that it be done “my way,” then it darn better be done “my way.”
This type of “respectful disagreement,” very OFTEN, will lead to a better, more efficient, if not less expensive way, of completing the project in question. It also will let the employee know that the boss is approachable, and it’s ok to disagree. The purpose of disagreement should not come about… just to be argumentive…. But constructive. It is intended to bring about “a better solution.”
On the other hand, if your proposed solution “sucks air,” and/or is perceived to be the “lazy-man-way-out;” then be prepared for it to back-fire on you. Be prepared to accept the consequences of a bad decision, or having presented a “very bad alternative.”
Don’t disagree… just to hear your mouth run…but rather, disagree “with purpose,” and on purpose. Present a “well-thought-out-idea,” not some HAIR-BRAINED idea that just “bounced-off-the-wall” during your coffee break.
We are told in 2 Peter 3:16 – As he does in all his letters when he speaks in them of these matters. There are some things in them that are hard to understand, which the ignorant and unstable twist to their own destruction, as they do the other Scriptures.
So the message here, is…. Know what you’re talking about, mean what you say, and say it with RESPECT… and you may…just may…get exactly what you want. …Blessings… cjlb…8/29/15.