SILENCE: We’ve all heard these terms before….Silence is Golden; or Silence is a Virtue. Most of the time, it implies a positive implication. My take is a bit different: Silence can, too often, imply an admission of guilt; a lack of courage; lack of confidence; not wanting to FACE the TRUTH; the inability to make a significant decision; low self-esteem; the lack of a plan; an excuse for failure; failing to do due-diligence; or the process of “buying time.” Silence can also be the lack of…good judgement.
If a “leader is silent,” then he’s not a REAL LEADER; or most certainly…A poor leader. He’s “keeping his PLAN to himself.” One must make a conscious decision to be silent. WHY? While there are exceptions…I’m always leery of SILENCE. (Libraries, funerals, etc. are exceptions).
Silence is also an indication “of agreement.” If, for an example… you FAIL to VOTE, it’s not only an indication of “voter apathy,” but also that you AGREE with the status-quo. It indicates that you are satisfied, and see “no reason for change.” It is a FORM of SILENCE.
There are those, too, who use SILENCE as a form of CONTROL. Some people use silence as a “tool to gain more power,” or to exercise the POWER they already have…. Particularly in relationship issues, or friendships. They use the “silent treatment” to put that “certain person” in their proper place. To me, it represents a “very-weak-defense” of one’s position.
Martin Luther King, Jr. said…“Our lives ‘begin to end’ the day we become silent about things that matter.” Imagine where our country would be, today, on “civil rights” if people like MLK had “remained silent?”
Imagine, today, where our country “seems to be going… because we Citizens, and tax-payers, REMAIN SILENT. .
Are you Silent? There are times, of course, when “Silence is Golden.” The most important time would be when “someone else is speaking.” One cannot listen very well, if they’re trying to talk while someone else is talking. When one listens to the televised “Sunday afternoon Debates” on the latest political issues… people are trying to “talk-over” the other person… sometimes 2 or 3 are talking at the same time, and none of their points (good or bad) are made… or understood.
From a personal standpoint… I’ve used “silence” many times to keep the “opposition in the dark.” I don’t want them to know my position; and keeping silent served my position well. Remember: Jesus remained silent many times during His trials… A few scriptures on Silence worth reading are:
Proverbs 17:28 – Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; When he closes his lips, he is considered prudent. Proverbs 10:19 – When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise. Proverbs 28:23 – He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue.
Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 – There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
So…. if “scripture” doesn’t give you sufficient guidance, then we can turn to Kenny Rogers’ song, The Gambler,.… ”You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, Know when to fold ’em, Know when to walk away, Know when to run.” …..um…works for me!