Most accomplished, and recognized, leaders have learned, early on, that a little sugar smooths out the process… over and over again. Isn’t it, so much nicer when we have good manners? Don’t things happen better, easier, timelier, and more efficient… when all the participants have good manners?
Well good manners is a “general way” of saying “being a nice guy.” Or, better yet…someone who follows the “Golden Rule.” It’s all about the same. Good leaders follow a certain standard, in a natural sort of way, of getting “the best” out of each of the followers, or participants. If the leader-guy had an “invisible sign,” that said: I’m the BOSS, and I’m an SOB, and do as I say, not as I do.” It would be “very doubtful” that anyone would stay around the job, or him, very long.
Having “good manners” does not mean that the boss is a “push-over,” no…No… it means that “he cares.” Sure, there are exceptions to both sides of the issue. There are some leaders who “lead with a strong-arm” and being nice is not their forte. And there are others, and probably the majority, who lead by example, and being “nice” is one of their best suits.
I’d like to think of myself… as well, being a nice guy… and one with “good manners,” but that said; I enjoy being a nice-guy better than being an SOB. I’ve been both, sometimes, interchangeably. Having “good manners,” has PROVEN to get the job done better, and with more sustainability.
There is a big difference between being FIRM and DECISIVE, and being RUDE and ABUSIVE. In John 2:14-16, it is said: And He found in the temple those who were selling oxen and sheep and doves, and the money changers seated at their tables. And He made a scourge of cords, and drove them all out of the temple, with the sheep and the oxen; and He poured out the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables; and to those who were selling the doves He said, “Take these things away; stop making My Father’s house a place of business.”
There is a “time and a place” for everything. In Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 – There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.
And, now….it’s time to say….Blessings….cjlb.6/17/15.