ACCOMODATING: I believe this to be a very important characteristic of anyone working towards a leadership role. It’s strange though, the fine-line, sometimes, between being accommodating and being “hard-nosed.”
Try to follow me…here. If being ACCOMMODATING took, say, 90% of “x”, and being hard-nosed, took 10% of “x;” ….Will the leader be remembered for being “accommodating, or hard-nosed?” It would be depending on who was being affected by the result. It’s kind of a catch-22 situation; which is where any good leader always finds himself.
I know that over the years, for me, I’ve done my best to “hear the other side.” To be adaptable where possible, and compliant when necessary is just the right way to go about things, but on the other hand; the issue(s) have to be weighed against cost, efficiency, expediency, profit, and acceptance. One can be kind, friendly, pleasant, agreeable, and inclusionary, only, up to a certain point.
I’ve always had an “open-door” policy, whereby, ANYONE (that has a dog in the fight) can come forward with any opinion, or idea, affecting the outcome of the particular issue… that want to come forth. I’ll listen, and either agree or disagree…right off. It would be up to them, if they want to “convince me” to think otherwise. Of course, if I have AGREED, then the matter is settled. But if I disagree…. they know they can come back again, and if, or when, they come back, with more information or data supporting their position, then again, I listen, and either agree or disagree. A simple YES, or NO. If they wish, I allow a third time to convince me to side with their position. I don’t ever remember changing my mind on the 3rd go-around….but I listen…yes…with sincerity and then give my answer…Yes will mean YES, and NO means NO.
As found in Matthew 5:36-37 – Nor shall you make an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black. “But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes ‘ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil. The matter will then be settled. My point is; when you say NO the third time; you’re thought to be hard-nosed….un-flexible. I disagree…I think that I give the participants every opportunity to disagree…civilly, and without risk. I don’t want to be difficult, but then, too, I don’t like dealing with difficult people. The Bible says in Isaiah 40:6 – “All men are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall, but the word of God remains forever.”
We will always have “difficult people” around us; because satan is always there…trying to influence us to go against the will of God. …Blessings… cjlb…1/18/15