SELF-ESTEEM….Think about this…….What does self-esteem really mean? Typically, it would address what one thinks of his/herself… that is to say… holding one’s self in “high (or low)-self-esteem.” One who has ‘high-self-esteem’ might’en also suffer with a case of being Mr. EGO? Someone who has low-self-esteem, then… might consider themselves to be worthless, or at least, worth less.
Check this out…….it also means DEFERENCE….that is… to defer to someone else……..with respect and humility. Don’t confuse low-self-esteem with being humble and respectful. True…..the two seem a bit at odds, yet it is up to “the well balanced leader” to view him/her in a positive, yet humble manner. This would likely mean that the individual actually… is putting ‘the other guy’ ahead of himself… by deferring to him (the other guy). This might… in today’s ‘cut-throat’ society… be slightly out of the norm.
Yet, thanks be to God… we don’t have to give-up anything to be ‘supportive of the other guy.’ It is called… being positive and forceful, yet…..respectful. All at the same time… mind you. It will work 90% of the time. The remaining 10% will want to be critical of you…..no matter what you do or say.
There are those… whose sole purpose is to be critical of the other guy. They would view ‘deferment,’ or yielding to the other guy… as a sign of WEAKNESS. They find it difficult to deal with the idea of being NICE… just for the sake of being nice. They think… being nice has an ulterior motive attached to it.
This is what God did in …. John 3:16-17 – For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that everyone who believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him. God deferred to us…that is…you and me…and the other guy. The only thing Jesus asks of us… is to believe in Him…and, to love Him.
Thank you Dear Jesus, the Son of God…for dying, so that ‘we might have life-ever-lasting.’ Thank you… for deferring to us.