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“…The idea of ‘wanting to go to college,’ while a lofty goal; just having it on a LIST, doesn’t get you there…. the same with marriage, and career goals…”

I am a ‘goal-setting person.’  I keep meticulous records of what I want to do; how to do it; time frame; and the COMPLETED project.  I start with a ‘generalized goal.’  A ‘general goal’ would be, like … going to college; marry someone who thinks as I do; a certain career; living to at least […]

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“…A commitment only reinforces the preexisting LOVE, it does not originate it, or sustain it.  LOVE…. is LOVE…. Commitment… or NO…”

Yesterday, we were talking about COMMITMENTS… and that led us to talking about how to “improve” one’s marital life…the process of getting along with each other in a loving, and harmonious, fashion.   Someone proposed “stalking the wife” … meaning to say… killing her with kindness… (Say what??) Doing the unexpected, doing nice things for her, etc. that is… […]

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“…Let’s put the term… FEAR… into perspective…”

FEAR: FDR said…  “We have nothing to fear, but fear itself.” There are many types of fear:  There is the fear of hurting one’s feelings, fear of not accomplishing goals, fear of not getting that coveted promotion, fear losing a certain political race, fear of not passing the test… then the fear of a rejected […]

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“…City governments should charge $5000.00 for a marriage license…instead of $10.00…and… $25K to get a divorce permit.  It would make one think…”

PREPAREDNESS:  Scout’s Motto: Be Prepared.  Would you fly a plane without proper instructions and certification?  Deliver a baby (unless under emergency)?  Get married?  Take on a career responsibility without being properly prepared. Back to ‘getting married.”  So many of us… go into that ‘life-long commitment’…O’so totally unprepared.  For me…my wife was 18 and I was […]

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“…Channeling one’s energy, time, and skills…..towards Anger…. Hate…. Depression…Vengeance….and other forms of  Folly….is time better spent in the pursuit of…”

PRIORITIES:  We all make our priorities… but most of us…don’t even realize.  Even when we’re doing ‘just whatever the heck we want, when we want,’ is still setting PRIORITIES.  Because we’re doing what suits us to do.  And, that’s setting priorities. We normally use the term “setting priorities” when we’re trying to get someone to […]

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