“Being nice” in the work place: What? Are you kidding? Is this something new? We’re expected to do our job…typically…getting a fair pay for a fair job done….and now, we’re expected to be nice too. W-O-W.
Kidding aside…I’m involved in a Bible Study Group, and this particular fellow has never paid any attention to me, or I to him. We sit on opposite sides of the room, he comes in late, and I leave early.
That said; one morning, when I came in, he was already there, and I stopped, shook hands, and began to tell him about someone that I had heard someone on the radio the previous day who called in to the “morning-drive-show” complimenting his business and shared the details of that compliment.
He was clearly pleased with my taking the time to share this with him. Ever since then… we speak more often, but more importantly, we make an effort to have periodic eye contact, exchange nods and smiles often, and when close enough; engage in conversation.
The point is: Just “seizing the opportunity” to be friendly and polite, sometimes will dramatically change the circumstance from… passive acceptance to aggressive friendship.
While “being nice” to someone is a special gift from God, which is given to all of mankind… there are some of us (me included), who are given a…smaller share of that gift… and are often thought of being “un-friendly.” It’s not that we are, necessarily… un-friendly, “on purpose,” we just have to make a …special, more conscious, effort… to be friendly. One might consider that “special effort” as a compliment…..because it is.
There is an old saying “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” The meaning is simple… A person’s appearance… either their physical attributes or dress, are no indication of their inner-being. Nor, for that matter, should an outward of un-friendliness be held against them. We humans are incredibly complex.
We are reminded in 1 Samuel 16:7 – The Lord does not look at the things man looks at… man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.
So, the advice for today is we should be about the process of cleaning the inside of our cup…Seeking what matters most. Galatians 5:22 – But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
Wrap “these fruits of the Holy Spirit”… all in a spirit of humility and truly you will appear beautiful to all. No matter how you look, or act… on the outside.