THE TONGUE: The Tongue is part of the Sensory Organ System of the human body. And, while it is a ‘sensory’ organ…as it can sense, or detect the differences in taste… it is NOT-CAPABLE of sensing ‘un-conscionable acts.’ In other words… the tongue doesn’t know, or sense… when to keep from ‘wagging its tongue,’… or talking too much. Maybe even, much the same as I’m doing here. You be the judge.
We are told in Proverbs 12:18 – There are those of us who speak rashly… like the piercing of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. This isn’t a ‘new concept.’ It isn’t rocket science… just common sense. We should, always…Treat people the way we want to be treated.
As Leaders, we, too often… hold the lives of others in balance. With just the slant of a word…a certain expression…or a simple look in the eyes…added together, can make or break someone’s self-esteem, their morale, and, even breakdown their commitment. I know, and well remember to this day… my Dear Mother could give one a “certain look,” that could MELT steel. Something, I suddenly remember… that my wife and children, have on occasion… accused me of.
We can, but should not, use our “tongues” for tongue-lashings. But wouldn’t it…rather, be used… for compliments, affection, encouragement, or a simple sign of respect. The simple, and Bottom-line is: Hold your tongue, until your mind shifts in gear.
We all… are probably guilty of ‘running our mouths too much.’ Saying the WRONG thing, at just the RIGHT time can be devastating. Even though… what we say … might have degrees of merit, and truth… is it necessary to say ‘it’ at a particular point in time; or … could it not WAIT? Here’s an example.
I remember, again… to well; that… some 52 years ago, at a small family dinner party, where I spoke up… in front of everyone… to my brother’s new mother-in-law…saying… “Mrs. Smith… are you excited about Jim and Sally’s pregnancy?” (They had only been married 4 or 5 weeks). She responded… “Oh yes, I’m so delighted.” My Mother gave me that “evil look” (above referenced). Little did I know that they were “actually expecting.” I was just trying to “be funny,” and entertaining. I was dumb, stupid… or both. My Mother did not invite me to dinner, again, for some five years. This is a true story. My comments… were just not necessary…much less, well-timed. While I meant to be funny… I came off…being a ‘smart-ass.’ At 24 years of age…I knew better how to act…but I revved up my tongue… before putting my brain in gear. (Ugh! The ‘story’ of my life).
Other examples spell more serious consequences for innocent people. Even though ‘something might be truthful,’ doesn’t mean it has a place in the conversation. Even worse…if it’s not true. It is clear in… Ephesians 4:29 – Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.