“You’re as ugly as home-made sin. HaHaHa…just joking.” “You’re teeth are so bucked, you could eat an apple through a picket-fence….HaHaHa…Just joking.” “You’re rude, crude, and ugly…HaHaHa…. Just joking.” “Yeah, I know… you’re sorry…how about the rest of your family?” Yeah… yeah…yeah….just joking.
We’ve all, at one time or another…been a bit heartless. Making fun of someone… all in the “name of fun.” It’s called having fun at “someone else’s expense.” It’s making yourself look good, while making someone else look bad…the blunt of your joke, and self-styled humor. All…bad!
Most people do this type of thing…not trying to be mean… not trying to hurt someone… but just trying to be the “funny-guy.” But, it’s never funny to the “other guy” … the one on the “receiving end,” of thoughtless humor. I know, in my own experience… I’ve always felt like people… just didn’t get the “real meaning” behind what I was saying…thinking… they just don’t understand… my personality, or my sense of humor. It’s their FAULT!
They’re others, though, who are “down-right-mean.” They know exactly what they’re saying…probably much like I might be viewed…by some. Ouch… the truth always hurts.
Once, some 40+ years ago, my wife and I were invited to the house of the president of my company, along with another senior manager, and his wife. I was a bit “full of myself,” and the subject of “weight and dieting” came up, and I made a remark…. “I used to be a fat slob, but went on a diet…etc.…etc.” It didn’t occur to me that the “other couple” were grossly OVER-WEIGHT. You see… I wasn’t thinking about “them,” rather… I was thinking about “me.” I wasn’t directing my comment towards them, or their weight issue… I was talking about me. But you’d NEVER, as it turned out… could convince them of that line of thinking. To them… I was heartless, rude, crude….etc. To me… I wasn’t even trying to be funny….rather, I was “just talking.” But the DAMAGE had been done. I’ve done it too often over the course of my life. I admit… and I’m regretful.
But… like the “send key” on a poorly thought-out-email… it’s just too darn late…when you’ve already “hit send.” The damage is done. One cannot “un-shoot” an arrow. As we are told in Proverbs 26:18-19 – Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death, Is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, “I was only joking!”
O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended Thee, and I detest all my sins… because I dread the loss of Heaven, and the pains of hell, but most of all… because I have offended Thee, my God, Who art all-good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve… with the help of thy Grace… to confess my sins, do penance, and to AMEND my life….