You know…this subject can be very complicated, or like me, I can keep it in the KISS mode. Keep it simple stupid. I can only relate to this in the manner that I handle “staying positive.” Obviously…POSITIVE is the opposite of NEGATIVE. So, starting with that….NEGATIVE. My ADVICE: Stay away from negative people. I stay out of negative conversation. I realize quickly, and accept, that which I can CONTROL, and that which I cannot control. If I can CONTROL the issues…believe me….I will CONTROL the issues, and as much as possible…. The outcome. And, if I cannot control the issues…I don’t even try. I stay out of the conflict. I will analyze the facts, the issues, and the odds of me gaining control…and if I think, clearly, that I can successfully control the outcome….I will go down fighting trying to gain control. But if the odds are just not in my favor; if I know that I have poor support or backing….then, again, I retreat. And, I am NOT a retreater. Almost always, I can quickly access the problem and will know quickly if I can control it…if not, I accept it, and move on to those issues that I can control.
Staying positive is not always easy. If you have “personal issues” that come into play that can put you in a despondent mood, then working out serious problems becomes very complicated….if not impossible. But believe me on this. If you let “personal issues” effect your “at work” issues, then you are already in trouble. We have to learn that when you walk out of the family compound…then you put out of your mind….you leave them at home (where they belong). Remember President Clinton. He is a MASTER at leaving “his personal problems at home.” He is a major “screw-up,” and yet, he can turn around and go to work, and never miss a beat. Successful people “have to develop” this mentality, in order to stay successful. (Of course…it’s better not to be a screw-up).
My point is… we have to develop the skill-set, the ability, the expertise of compartmentalizing all the issues in our life. We have to learn to separate the issues in our personal life, our social life, our business life, and our spiritual life from each other. This is NOT that DIFFICULT. It is a matter of SELF-CONTROL. If you lack self-control, then you have a bigger problem. But maintaining “self-control” is paramount to “staying positive.” They go hand-in-hand. Since I have personalized this issue, then let it be clear that I am very good at “self-discipline.” Perfect…heck NO….good? Yes, very good.
We all need to develop our skill-sets that directly affect our “attitude.” If we have a bad attitude, then we have lost self-control, and we are, therefore…a negative person. Another ACE I have up my sleeve is keeping my “spiritual life” under control. If we flirt with the APPLE, then we are negative. Stay away from the APPLE. Stay POSSITIVE. So, how do we stay positive in a negative world? Let me start by using this verse from Joshua 1:9 – Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest. The Bible says in Isaiah 26:3 that the Lord will “keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed” upon Him because he trusts in Him. Our peace is linked directly to what we think. We allow ourselves to be influenced with worldly reading, listening, and watching the same ungodliness as the world and then wondering why we get the same results. It’s simple—garbage in, garbage out. If we put God first…. Then we will always be POSITIVE. … Blessings…cjlb …10/28/14.