“Honey… I think …. I’m going to ‘hang-out-with-the-guys’ …I’ll be back about midnight” ….says I. Those words have NEVER come out of my mouth… not in nearly 56 years of marriage. And, I might add….they NEVER will. First of all… I don’t go anywhere without my bride. Second, the few friends that I have…well, they’re at home with their families. Anybody who is out at midnight with “the guys,” is headed for trouble. Third; very seldom do I have lunch with anyone other than my two sons, or the very occasional friend. I’m just not a “gang-kind-of-guy.” I’m a home-body, and family-man.
Now…that’s not to suggest that people can’t do otherwise, and it be perfectly proper, and rewarding. What I’m leading up to is this: Who do you want to be seen with? Where do you want to be seen? And, what do you want to be seen doing? We’ve all heard the saying…. birds of the feather…flock together. To me, that would mean that whoever I am with, where I am at, and what I’m doing… then I’m there with people that are “like-minded.” Another is: If you lay with a dog, then you’ll smell like a dog.
When I’m out with friends; they are friends of my wife’s and mine. We …are with “like-minded” people. And, almost always; we are there as couples. Hanging around people, or other coupes with opposing views, can be educational, rewarding, self-improving. But, it can also be detrimental, damaging, disruptive, and destructive. If you smell the latter, then do a 180 and find compatible people to spend your leisure time with.
I have found in my “back-9-years” that associating with people you attend Church with can be very satisfying. If you are trying to improve you social and spiritual life, then that might be an interesting option to consider. 1 Corinthians 15:33 – Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” Proverbs 13:20 – Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Proverbs 18:24 – A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.